Bad news

[wiseheart]

And I mean REALLY bad news. Mum's taken a fall in the living room and dislocated her hip. After an hour spent in romantic discomfort on the floor the ambulance finally arrived and took her to the hospital. I wasn't allowed to go with her because of the f*cking plague. Nor will I be able to visit her. I wanted her to take my mobile phone but she panicked that she won't be able to deal with it, so no contact whatsoever.

I am really scared. I am scared shitless. I'm scared that they'll ruin her hip, just as the incompetent butchers in the other hospital ruined her shoulder twenty or so years ago. I'm scared that after a year of voluntary isolation she might get the cursed virus, after all. She's 89, for f*ck!s sake!

Somebody hand me a bucket, please, I feel the sheer irresistible urge to bawl...

Update: it turns out that the leg is broken, after all. Mum is now waiting for surgery.

Comments

[scrollwriter.livejournal.com]

Step 1. As best as you can, calm down, preferably with the assistance of friends to talk to, and if worse comes to worse, take a tranquilizer to quell emotions boiling over.
Step 2. Brace yourself for the possibility of the recovery taking a long time. There's nothing simple about someone, especially an older person, recovering from a hip injury. This will entail having the patience of Job while providing caregiver service, and letting her have some dignity with everyday situations, such as using the facilities and changing clothes.
Step 3. Do not let her refuse to take painkillers.
Step 4. Pray as hard as you can. This is not a time to not face spiritual reality. If you won't, I'll do it for you, whether you like it or not. However, you'll have to ask.
Step 5. Take one day at a time, and depend on your real friends as much as they can stand putting up with you during a challenging time, and difficult times ahead.

I wish you well.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

I know. I went through the same thing with Grandma; only that it was worse. Or so I hope. I'm a believer in God's mercy myself and I do pray. And I have wonderfully supportive friends and family... at least the one small branch of family we still have contact with. The others don't count.

[scrollwriter.livejournal.com]

The only bright side in this miserable situation is realising that major problems happen in a broken world, but solace is not impossible during hard times.

People can be difficult to deal with, and in my own personal experience, it's easier to depend on real friends rather than relatives.

Look after yourselves.