Bad news

[wiseheart]

And I mean REALLY bad news. Mum's taken a fall in the living room and dislocated her hip. After an hour spent in romantic discomfort on the floor the ambulance finally arrived and took her to the hospital. I wasn't allowed to go with her because of the f*cking plague. Nor will I be able to visit her. I wanted her to take my mobile phone but she panicked that she won't be able to deal with it, so no contact whatsoever.

I am really scared. I am scared shitless. I'm scared that they'll ruin her hip, just as the incompetent butchers in the other hospital ruined her shoulder twenty or so years ago. I'm scared that after a year of voluntary isolation she might get the cursed virus, after all. She's 89, for f*ck!s sake!

Somebody hand me a bucket, please, I feel the sheer irresistible urge to bawl...

Update: it turns out that the leg is broken, after all. Mum is now waiting for surgery.

Comments

[red-day-dawning.livejournal.com]

Hugs. I’m thinking of you and your Mum.

[adafrog.livejournal.com]

Oh no! {{{{{hugs}}}}} You won't be able to call her in her room without the cell phone?

[elmey.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm so sorry, I can understand why you're scared! Sending good thoughts and good wishes.

Will you be able to get updates from the hospital?

[noadvertising.livejournal.com]

Oh dear, that's bad news, indeed! And at times like these, with that darn plague hindering us from visiting our loved ones! I'm keeping you and your mother in my thoughts.

[motodraconis.livejournal.com]

This is scary, and not being able to contact her makes it worse.

I've a chum who is a nurse in the NHS. The NHS is overwhelmed, but... they are really strict about segregating covid from the rest of the hospital. Also, Maman goes to hospital every 3 weeks for her cancer treatment and again, they are super strict and she's never had any issues. For the sake of their own people, they will be strict on that. Can't help about the hip worry, but maybe it'll help you a tiny bit regarding covid worry.

[curiouswombat.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry. It is bad enough when you are able to be there, I can only imagine how helpless it must feel to not be able to visit at all.

I can see from your comments that it is actually broken (is it at the top? A fractured neck of femur? I am only being nosy because, many years ago, I worked in an orthopaedic ward and that was the most common fracture in older ladies). I would hope they can get her home to you quite quickly after surgery.

As motodraconis says, hospital are doing their utmost to keep covid and non-covid patients separated, but I can understand it still being an added worry. I will remember you both in my prayers.

[bk_forever]

Sending hugs and good wishes to you and your mum, that's such an awful thing to happen, and I hope everything will turn out well, or at least as well as possible considering her injury. Surely if she has to remain in hospital she should get the vaccine immediately to protect her. I hope that will be the case.

My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

[manue7a.livejournal.com]

Oh no! Fingers crossed and good vibes sent.

[elwenlj.livejournal.com]

Oh love! What a time to have a fall. I hope them manage to pin the leg and get her home quickly.

[artemis10002000]

Oh god I'm so sorry! That's terrible. I can understand your fears so well.

I'm sending you the best wishes for the surgery, both for your mother's recovery and the doctors not fucking up. Keep us informed how the surgery went once you know, though getting news seems to be difficult

[spikesgirl58.livejournal.com]

I will keep good thoughts for you. Hopefully she won't have to wait too log for surgery and will soon be back home.

[scrollwriter.livejournal.com]

Step 1. As best as you can, calm down, preferably with the assistance of friends to talk to, and if worse comes to worse, take a tranquilizer to quell emotions boiling over.
Step 2. Brace yourself for the possibility of the recovery taking a long time. There's nothing simple about someone, especially an older person, recovering from a hip injury. This will entail having the patience of Job while providing caregiver service, and letting her have some dignity with everyday situations, such as using the facilities and changing clothes.
Step 3. Do not let her refuse to take painkillers.
Step 4. Pray as hard as you can. This is not a time to not face spiritual reality. If you won't, I'll do it for you, whether you like it or not. However, you'll have to ask.
Step 5. Take one day at a time, and depend on your real friends as much as they can stand putting up with you during a challenging time, and difficult times ahead.

I wish you well.

[meathiel]

*big hugs*

Hope surgery goes well and she's out there again soon.

[rcfinch.livejournal.com]

So sorry to hear this! And at her age, and during this pandemic... many hugs! But maybe it'll help a little if I tell you that my mother broke her hip at 89, got a replacement and recovered almost completely after physiotherapy.

[chocolate-frapp.livejournal.com]

oh my god, I'm so sorry.

[akane42me.livejournal.com]

Oh my god..
I'm so sorry this has happened. I hope you will be able to talk to the hospital staff and get regular updates.
Maybe you can go back and give the staff the phone and someone can help her with it.
Thinking of you, sending love, hugs, prayers for you and your Mum.

[amedia.livejournal.com]

I actually saw some of the later posts before I saw this one, but all the same, I'm sending warm wishes, virtual hugs, and prayers toward your mom. And you, because this has to be a scary and frustrating time. {{{{wiseheart}}}}

[mirasaui.livejournal.com]

Coming in here late, so sorry to hear about your Mum.

[wanderingmogwai.livejournal.com]

I'm reading entries in reverse so I am here from the future. I am SO glad your mom could get home and really start recovering as soon as she did! *hugs*