Made of glass

[wiseheart]

So, has it happened to you that you are - theoretically - on someone's friendslist and still don't show up on their radar? For very long stretches of time?

Cyberlife has the strange habit to follow the patterns of real life. If so, where is the achievement? What is the point?

Because, you know, being tolerated - yet unwanted - is just not enough on the long run.

Comments

[espresso-addict.livejournal.com]

It's my experience that different people use f'lists in different ways. Some have a small list and actively interact with all the members of it; others have a huge list and only actively interact with a tiny proportion; some read most of their f'list for something specific, say fiction or recs, and pass by other posts. And just like with the ratio of story readers to commenters, many more people read with interest without finding anything cogent to say in return very often -- that's certainly true for me.

[makamu]

I agree with espresso_addicts summary and I think my major problem when reading about your emotions is that I cannot respond adequately (or at least I feel I cannot), even if I want to :)

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Since when do you belong to the people I haven't heard from for months, little one? I always know you are here.

Besides, most of those people on my flist are personal friends. Or at least I thought they were. I don't befriend anyone lightly - trust issues, you know. And in this context, yes, I do find it a bit disturbing that while they are more or less active on LJ, our connection remains one-sided.

[glitterboy1.livejournal.com]

I think some people just don't make very many comments, even when they're reading and are interested. There are people who I know read my journal, but comment only rarely. It's a shame that LJ doesn't give an easy way to say, "Yes, I'm here and I'm listening" in the way that a smile and an encouraging gesture might do in person.

[ithilwen.livejournal.com]

I second the others. It could be this person's not commenting much simply because he/she simply can't think of much to say. That doesn't mean they're not reading your entries.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Does it also explain their not answering personal mail - not e-mail only but real mail as well?

[ithilwen.livejournal.com]

No, it does not. I suppose in that case your suspicions are well-founded, sadly. *hugs*