The pitfalls of friendslists
Aug. 9th, 2014 03:38 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Sometimes I wish I knew how to set up filters properly. There is stuff I would like to get off my chest sometimes but cannot, not even in a flocked entry, because some people would feel attacked and get all defensive or insulted or whatnot. Just recently, someone made a text comment that I felt hurtful but cannot talk about it because the person is on my flist, and I don't want to hurt them. It was a fairly innocent thing to say; it is not their fault that my interpretation of frienship is a bit peculiar and I was hurt.
Of course, I could make private entries to went a bit, or disable comments entirely, but then it wouldn't make much sense to have a journal in the first place right? I could return to the handwritten version and let all the hurts and neglects fester...
Of course, I could make private entries to went a bit, or disable comments entirely, but then it wouldn't make much sense to have a journal in the first place right? I could return to the handwritten version and let all the hurts and neglects fester...
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Date: 2014-08-09 02:07 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2014-08-10 07:56 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2014-08-09 03:41 pm (UTC)I know it sounds complicated to set up filters, but it really isn't. All the steps are in the "Managing Your Custom Friends Groups" section:
http://www.livejournal.com/support/faq/102.html
If you want to try it, I could help you walk through the steps as you're doing it...
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Date: 2014-08-10 07:58 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2014-08-10 02:30 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2014-08-09 07:56 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2014-08-10 07:59 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2014-08-10 01:03 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2014-08-10 08:01 am (UTC)Thanks for the shoulder to cry on. :)
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Date: 2014-08-10 01:22 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2014-08-10 07:59 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2014-08-23 07:37 pm (UTC)I don't know if that would work with everyone on LJ, but feel free to use her "introduction" at the start of any LJ entry. Once you've made it clear what you want, you'll know that anyone who ignores it isn't really listening anyway, so you can, in turn, ignore whatever they post. (And yes, I note the irony that I am suggesting a solution!)