Mum update #4 - bad news

[wiseheart]

Preliminary tests show that mum presumably has a tumor on her common bile duct - and it's most likely malevolent. They'd probably operate on her, somewhen next week or so. We won't know anything for sure until next Monday.

I'm so numb I can barely feel a thing... aside from fear, that is.

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[espresso-addict.livejournal.com]

Oh Soledad -- my thoughts are with you and your mother.

[skyfiery.livejournal.com]

*hugs tight* Definitely sending strength and healing thoughts both your way.

[the-wild-iris.livejournal.com]

Dear E. - so very, very sorry.

My thoughts and prayers are with you both for the surgery. I hope the doctors can tell you something positive once you know better what you're dealing with and what the options are. It ain't over yet *hugs*.

I'm so numb I can barely feel a thing

I remember feeling very unreal when I learned that my mum 'almost certainly' had cancer. I wandered around the office and just had this overwhelming need for something hot to drink.

[glitterboy1.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry, Soledad. I'm thinking of both of you, and I hope that Monday will bring more information - and more positive news on what can be done. *hugs*

[mistry89.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear this and hope there is better news when they get "up close and personal".

Good Thoughts and Positive vibes for you both.
*hugs*

[lissas-elves.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear this, Soledad! Your poor mother must be terribly upset. *hugs*

It's going to be a long wait till Monday for the two of you. I'll be thinking of you.

[edge-of-ruin.livejournal.com]

*hugs* love to you and your mum.

[songfire3.livejournal.com]

{{HUGS}}

[missyvortexdv.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[eye-of-a-cat.livejournal.com]

My thoughts are with both of you. *hugs*

[cirdan-havens.livejournal.com]

She's in good health. Better chance things will go ok. *hugs*

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thanks. They are appreciated very much.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thank you, little sis. *hugs back*

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

With me, it's cleaning all day. I hate housework, but it tires me out enough so that I can sleep - which I desperately need.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I'm equally hopeful and scared about Monday. They're planning to take Mum to a special clinic when it comes to the operation, which will mess up with my logistics a great deal. The hospital she's in right now is only a few bus stops from our home, so I can see her every day, but if they take her to the other end of the city, *and* school starts again next week, it will be complicated. *sighs*

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thanks. We need all of them... and then some.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

She is, the poor thing - and so am I, to be honest. She's the only family I have, and I so hoped to visit Denmark with her yet.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I can need hugs right now... and so can she.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thanks. :)

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thanks. Beautiful icon, BTW.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

I truly hope so. It's just so hard at the moment.

[lindahoyland.livejournal.com]

I'm so very sorry.
Sending hugs.

[jen-rock.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear this and I pray that the results aren't as bad as the doctors think they might be.

[archet.livejournal.com]

*Hugs* I'm sorry to hear this. We just lost Dad July 16th, so I know how hard the waiting for test results and surgery and all of that can be. Please know you and your Mom will be in my thoughts.

You can only take one step at a time, just try and remember that even with so much on your plate, take time to take care of youself, too. :)

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Linda. It's really hard, not having her home after more than half a century together... not to mention the concerns of what might still come. :(

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thanks you. I still have a fragile hope in that direction, but afraid the chances are minimal to nonexistent.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thanks. The worst thing is that school starts again on Monday, and if they move her to a clinic further away, I won't even be able to visit her as much as I do now - and God nows, she needs all the encouragement she can get at this time.

[lindahoyland.livejournal.com]

I was very close to my Mum and still miss her after almost 12 years, so I can understand. I am praying for you both that all will be well.

[makamu]

*hugs* I won't sully this with words, just...*hugs tight*

[artemis10002000]

Oh mein Gott, das sind ja schreckliche Neuigkeiten *ganz feste in den Arm nehm* Ich drück Euch ganz fleißig die Daumen! Hoffentlich irren sich die Ärzte.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Tessy. Hugs are very good right now.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Ich danke Dir. Wir werden die Operation wohl kaum vermeiden müssen - auch wenn der Tumor nicht bösartig ist, er blockiert die Gallenleitung, er muß also raus. Es ist halt hart, für uns beide.

[disthrainsdotte.livejournal.com]

How horrible. I hope it is not malignant but that can only be determined after it has been analysed. If I could I would go to be with you. ((Soledad and mum))

[jilba.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear this bad news. One big thing in Mum's favour is she seems to have gotten on to her problem quickly, that makes a big difference.

I know it's hard, but try not to be frightened. From first hand experience with friends and family, it's fear, not the illness that does a lot of damage. Remember too, if it is cancer, many people survive. My step father is in his 70's and has survived bowel cancer..twice!

Hugs and best wishes, you'll get to Denmark with Mum yet!

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Dís. Whatever it is, I hope they can deal with it, and hopefully soon. This waiting and fretting is a horrible thing.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Oh, Jillian, hi, it's so good to have you back! *hugs*

I'm trying not to lose hope, really, and Mum's fantastic in her way to accept things. It's just so very hard, this waiting and taking down your hopes a peg every time the doctors say something.

[altariel.livejournal.com]

Sending you both lots of love and hugs, E.

[disthrainsdotte.livejournal.com]

It is the wait that is the hard thing, as soon as one knows what is the matter it becomes easier to bear. I hope they can deal with it as well.

[artemis10002000]

*nochmal umarm* Ich wünsche Euch, daß Ihr jetzt beide sehr viel Kraft habt, um das durchzustehen. Und natürlich, daß der Tumor gutartig ist.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thank you. :)

[jilba.livejournal.com]

I'm so very pleased Mum is so accepting of things as mental attitude is a BIG key in all of this. I have a friend who was given a nil chance of surviving breast cancer, he attitude was she was too busy to die. This was 15 years ago!

Still thinking of you both, and praying. It will be ok, I know it will.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Jillian,it's so good to have you back!