The pitfalls of friendslists

[wiseheart]

Sometimes I wish I knew how to set up filters properly. There is stuff I would like to get off my chest sometimes but cannot, not even in a flocked entry, because some people would feel attacked and get all defensive or insulted or whatnot. Just recently, someone made a text comment that I felt hurtful but cannot talk about it because the person is on my flist, and I don't want to hurt them. It was a fairly innocent thing to say; it is not their fault that my interpretation of frienship is a bit peculiar and I was hurt.

Of course, I could make private entries to went a bit, or disable comments entirely, but then it wouldn't make much sense to have a journal in the first place right? I could return to the handwritten version and let all the hurts and neglects fester...

Comments

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

I might give it a try. I rarely make any flocked post - the main goal of this journal is to communicate with people, after all - but I don't want people to feel offended. OTOH, I really need to whine sometimes, and having an audience, no matter how small a circle is it, helps.

[elmey.livejournal.com]

Well if you do need help, just shout. I have a "rant" filter :)