The pitfalls of friendslists

[wiseheart]

Sometimes I wish I knew how to set up filters properly. There is stuff I would like to get off my chest sometimes but cannot, not even in a flocked entry, because some people would feel attacked and get all defensive or insulted or whatnot. Just recently, someone made a text comment that I felt hurtful but cannot talk about it because the person is on my flist, and I don't want to hurt them. It was a fairly innocent thing to say; it is not their fault that my interpretation of frienship is a bit peculiar and I was hurt.

Of course, I could make private entries to went a bit, or disable comments entirely, but then it wouldn't make much sense to have a journal in the first place right? I could return to the handwritten version and let all the hurts and neglects fester...

Comments

[sammydragoncat]

*hugs* sorry about your situation.

[wiseheart.livejournal.com]

I think the basic problem is that I tend to expect from people who call themselves "friends" the same things I would be willing to do for them - while they are usually a lot less dedicated than I am.

Thanks for the shoulder to cry on. :)